Holidays

The holidays can be a lovely time of year—full of parties, family events, cultural events and celebrations. They can also be a really hard time of year for many people—including the folx I’ll primarily be working with in my private practice, people struggling with disordered eating and negative body image, and adoptees. Add to that the fact that many people have negative reactions to the idea of celebrating Thanksgiving anyway, given its history—I count myself in this category—and I imagine many people out there are heading into this week with some uncomfortable feelings coming up. Maybe you’re feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or gloomy. Maybe you’re stressed out about traveling (especially if you’re in a larger body), or hosting, or shopping. Maybe you’re worried you’ll spend this week preoccupied with thoughts of food and exercise; maybe you’re dreading the comments or conversations about weight, diet, bodies, etc. You might be feeling envious of others whose holidays seem to be more fun, or easier than yours will be. You might be grieving the loss of loved ones you used to spend this holiday with—and maybe feeling sad if you’re spending the holidays away from home, or don’t have people to spend them with at all. Maybe you’re not feeling much at all—after all, numbing our feelings is a way of protecting ourselves when we’re afraid to be vulnerable. 

Whatever you are feeling, know that it’s okay to feel it, though it may not be ideal, or comfortable—your feelings make sense and you are okay for having them. Be gentle with yourself and don’t forget your self-care practices—take breaks, take deep breaths, stretch, call a friend, hop on social media for some daily affirmations or reminders (like the beautiful quote I shared on my Instagram feed today), or delete social media entirely if you need to. Whatever works for you. If this is a tough week for you, that’s okay—I see you. And I’m offering support for your struggle, whatever it looks like.